Can’t hold us down

If you look back in history it’s a common double standard of society
The guy gets all the glory the more he can score
While the girl can do the same yet you call her a whore
I don’t understand why it’s OK,
The guy can get away with it, the girl gets name

Can’t hold us down – Christina Aguillera

 

This song came into my mind right after read Persida Acosta this statement on the news:

“Yung sa issue ng adultery and concubinage ang aking patakaran pa rin ay dapat mas mahigpit sa babae kesa sa lalake dahil ang babae ang ilaw ng tahanan,” Acosta said when asked by JBC member Jose Mejia on which laws she believes are partial to either sex. 

“Kapag nawasak ang tahanan, nagloko ang babae, wala na.  Kapag ang lalake ang nagloko, ang babae ay matatag, siya ang ilaw, buhay pa ang tahanan. So para sa akin OK lang na iyan pa rin ang batas mas mahigpit sa kababaihan sa adultery at ‘di masyadong mahigpit sa concubinage,” she added. 

 

Acosta was undergoing a public interview as part of her application to the post of SC associate justice.

Under Article 333 of the Revised Penal Code, a wife can be convicted of the crime of adultery for a single act of sexual intercourse with a man who is not her husband and by the man who has carnal knowledge of her knowing her to be married, even if the marriage be subsequently declared void.  If found guilty, both the married woman and her lover will suffer a prison term for a maximum period of six years.

 

Under Article 334, the law punishes a married man for concubinage only if he is found guilty of any of the following:

  • keeping a mistress in the conjugal dwelling
  • having sexual intercourse under scandalous circumstances with a woman who is not his wife
  • cohabiting with her in any other place

The penalty for the guilty husband is lower by one degree which is imprisonment for a maximum period of 4 years and 1 day only. His concubine, meanwhile, is given a separate penalty of “destierro” or banishment and not imprisonment.

 

So what is wrong with these? Let me see:

  1. In adultery, proof of sexual intercourse is enough, but in concubinage, it is not enough that sexual intercourse occurred. It has to be proven first that said intercourse is under under scandalous circumstance or a husband kept a mistress in a conjugal dwelling or cohabited with her in any other place.  Yup, convicting a woman of adultery is simple and straight-forward while proving that a man is guilty of concubinage is a lot of work.  If a married man is simply screwing random women in different locations then our state is totally okay with that.   Seriously what under scandalous circumstances means really?
  1. Let’s talk about penalties.  For the wife, the medium period of penalty for the crime of adultery ranges from 2 years, 4 months and 1 day to 4 years and 2 months imprisonment. The maximum period ranges from 4 years, 2 months and 1 day to 6 years imprisonment. The maximum period of imprisonment for a woman who is proven guilty of adultery by the court is 6 years.  For the husband, the penalty of prison correctional in its minimum period is from six months and one day of imprisonment.  The medium period of penalty is from 2 years, 4 months and one day to 4 years and one day of imprisonment.  The maximum period of imprisonment for a man who is proven guilty of concubinage by the court is 4 years and one day.  Not only is it easier for a woman to get convicted, the punishment also heavier.

 

The feminist in me just roar in rage.  I expected better from someone who leads the Public Attorney’s Office and a female lawyer.  It’s bad enough the law itself is unfair, it’s not surprising actually.  I bet the people who wrote and passed the law are men (I could be totally wrong).

So basically it’s only the woman who holds the family together?  It’s like telling men to go on their merry ways and do whatever they want they have no responsibility whatsoever as a father and husband after all.  He can’t be held accountable for what he does; he’s a man after all, the society expects him to mess around anyway.   Since a woman is strong enough she is not is not supposed to go astray and if she did, she must face tougher penalties just because.  Fantastic!

This rant is not about encouraging married women to have an affair because men are doing it anyway and with lesser consequence.   This is not me wanting both husband and wife to be heavily penalized by the law for desecrating their supposed holy marriages.  This is about equality.  Husband and wife should be both held accountable in their respective duties to each other and to their family.  Both should be resilient when it comes to challenges and temptations that will jeopardize their union.

Both sexes should face equal penalty for equal crime committed and both transgression should be convicted on equal grounds.

It is such a shame to leave in a patriarchal society in this day and age. I am so sick of double standard and gender stereotypes.  It’s the freaking 21st century already!  We explored space, detected gravitational waves (something we only read about and some might think will remain a theory).  We have phones that seemed smarter than us.  We’ve come so far as to realize that we can make clothes without taking off animal’s skin.  We’ve done so much.  We seemed so progressive but at the deepest recesses of our minds, most of us still believe in that bullshit belief that women are second class citizens and are only created as an afterthought, a companion to the lonely men.  Therefore we always have to have to play second fiddle to just about everything.

Nothing hurts a feminist more than seeing another woman purposely refusing to make gender equality a possibility.   Gender equality has a long way to go. I am not losing hope, someday soon and I hope I am still alive to witness it, men and women will stand side by side and recognize each other’s strengths and weaknesses and work together for a better world that is free of

This is for my girls all around the world
Who have come across a man that don’t respect your worth
Thinkin’ all women should be seen and not heard
So what do we do girls, shout out loud
Lettin ’em know we’re gonna stand our ground
So lift your hands high and wave ’em proud
Take a deep breath and say it loud
Never can, never will
Can’t hold us down

 

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Like a thief in the night

The Marcoses just proved how sneaky they could get.  In November 18, 2016, the Supreme Court  allowed the body of the late President and dictator Ferdinand Marcos to be buried in the Libingan ng mga Bayani.   Earlier today, like a thief in a the night (or the thief that they are), they sneaked Marcos’ carcass and finally buried him to where his family and loyalists believed to be his rightful place, among the nation’s heroes.   Why I am not surprised at  this?  Maybe I am losing faith in this country or maybe I am simply used to seeing powerful people getting what they want. I should probably stop writing on topics such as this lest Martin Andanar (aka one of Duterte’s apologists) call me a temperamental brat and some people might accuse me of not knowing anything at all since I wasn’t even alive during Martial Law.  Turned out apathy when it comes  to our nation’s history.

Hero or not

Today the Supreme Court ruled on the burial of the former president and dictator Ferdinand Marcos.  For decades, the Marcos family has fought to have the former president be buried in the Libingan ng mga Bayani (Heroes Cemetery), a national cemetery.  Amidst criticisms and protests, the Supreme Court voted and got a 9-5 (yes-no) result.  This is a very triumphant and happy day for the Marcos and their loyalists and a tragic one for the victims (and their families) of the martial law victims.   Hero or not, as far as the Supreme Court is concerned, Marcos deserved to be buried in the Libingan ng mga Bayani.

Imee Marcos (the former President and dictator’s daughter) said after the ruling “Ang sa akin tumalima tayo sa Korte Suprema.  Kung ano man ang galit sa inyong puso, let it go na po, pagpapatawad nalang , let us move on”.  Well tell that to the people who died and got brutalized without getting justice.  It’s funny to hear her say let us move on when it was her family who refused to bury their “loved one” for almost 3 decades because they  want a “heroes burial” for him.   Why can’t they move on instead and bury him elsewhere?

This news really darken my day.  Some solons even called this day a national mourning day.

 

 

Overwhelmed (and not in a good way)

It’s halfway through the term so I am now buried in school work add that to my equally challenging job and I am about to lose my cool.  Today is a Saturday and while most people are enjoying their weekend doing what they want I have to attend a class in the morning, complete a report at work in the afternoon and squeeze in some personal errands before the day ends.  I don’t mind being busy, I wanted this and I just got what I wanted right? No one forced me to  enroll in MBA, this is all me.  So I better work my ass off or I won’t be able to keep up with my very demanding work and studies.  This morning, our professor in Accounting Management let us work on exercises to see if we are ready for the exam (I’m not). We reviewed some exercises on the book and while we’re at it, he reminded us about our final paper.  A paper I have absolutely no idea how to do.  He didn’t give any format or even guidelines.  We just have to apply managerial accounting principles.  Yay me.  I am so lost in this subject and if I don’t study I’d definitely fail the exam.  On top of the individual final paper each group has to submit 4 case study analysis.  Whoah!   Thank God we are done with case study presentation.

Then there’s the first cycle of Action Research that I have to complete and present before the term ends for my elective subject.   I am still undecided whether I will continue my Management Action proposal which I started 2 terms ago or change my topic.  I haven’t had the time  to actually sit down and contemplate on this.  Yeah I had a 4 day break earlier this week but I used that to really rest (so I slept and slept), study Management Accounting (a bit), read books (shuffling between Harry Potter and Robert Langdon’s adventures) and catch up with my friends that I haven’t seen for quite sometime.  So here I am torn between panicking and going crazy (crazy sounds good).

I just had my exams in my other subject; Operations Management, and it was quite difficult, the questions are totally unexpected and will force you to think outside the box.  So think outside the box I did, to the point of silliness and improbability.  My group still haven’t started on our project and I just read the required format and content and there are just so much to do!!!

OMG how true is this one??? When you have panic attack disorder...it's your daily thought process! Read this article and stop having panic attacks! #relax #dontworry:

I am okay.  I got this but I just have to write my thoughts down or I’ll blow my head off. Stay focused, keep centered, eyes on the prize!   I really feel so much better once I had written down things that our bugging me.  This is my therapy; simple, free and accessible.

 

Off you go and read that AR proposal, maybe you can simply improve it and it’s good enough for presentation. Or better yet, enjoy what’s left of the day and think no more.

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